“Instead of saying ‘You’re fat’ and ‘You’re ugly,’ I’m gonna say ‘You are the person who helped your mum out, who saved your best mate, who lives with an illness, but keeps on going.’”
Today I was told all of these things by the same person:
“when you’re that young you don’t understand the consequences of dressing that way.”
“people will instinctively think of you sexually if you’re not wearing a lot”
“Confidence and sexuality in dress go pretty hand-in-hand.”
“ I feel like in the meantime, while society and men are still fucked up, it’s safest to not provoke it.”
“ if you don’t want people to think of you sexually then put more on so that they instinctively don’t do it.”
“Rape is an action and not an instinct.”
My male friend and I were discussing why young girls shouldn’t wear short shorts and tank tops. I said that they shouldn’t be punished for dressing in a certain way just because boys and men can’t control their genitals, and that school boards need to recognize that it’s more important to teach boys to respect females and to not oversexualize them, and not to enforce a sexist dress code and he said that their manor of dress needs to be dictated because they are “too young to understand the consequences of dressing a certain way”
That is RAPE CULTURE. Little girls are not dressing in a certain way for a reaction, women do not dress in a certain way for a reaction, no one is dressing a certain way to please anyone but themselves.
Can we please stop having the mind set that the consequences of dressing in a certain way are the female’s fault, and are the person objectifying the female because she’s dressed a certain way’s fault and it’s their responsibility to deal with it.